“Morality, like art, means drawing a line someplace”- Oscar Wilde
Did you ever come across a situation that might have brought you appreciation and profit, but somewhere deep inside it felt like your conscience was pricking you all the time?
Some people listen to it and act accordingly whereas others give more importance to external appreciation and profit. In the second case, the voice of conscience gradually becomes feeble and eventually dies. Every point in your life where your conscience had pricked you form a circle of principles all around you. This circle is your definition of morality.
Very often we come across scenarios, where a social pressure or sense of internal pleasure motivates us to cross the boundary of morality. This may be some kind of peer pressure, advice by our close ones, or even belief system of a certain section of the society. Any form of protest appears to be rude and is not taken well by the other person. This generates fear within us. We start feeling that we will lose other people and opportunities. This makes us push the boundaries of morality a little further to fit in more people. Eventually, the boundary loses its importance and it becomes very hard to stop people. You then become surrounded by people who don’t respect you or your values and take you for granted.
Your boundary of morality defines you. Your principles are a statement of your character. It is your idea of a respectable personality. When you alter the boundary of your morality for somebody else, you unconsciously send out a wrong message that the other person is more important than you. Also, when you compromise on your principles, you belittle the respect that you have for yourself.
It is always Ok to lose people who don’t value your principles. But it is not Ok to lose your principles because they are not valued by others. It is like giving up your freedom of opinion.